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Moms was not an advocate of trickin' in any form. The many years she was forced to postpone her dreams -- college, a career, travel -- essentially because my father refused to come home from work and help take care of small children, left too many footprints on her spirit. She got to college by working as a domestic, taking whatever could be salvaged out of $2.00 an hour after raising three kids, and stuffing her dreams into an old thermos bottle. By the time her youngest was in junior high, there was finally enough money for her tuition. Its intractability, however, speaks to something far more complex than mere female strategy, greed, or sexual manipulation. Trickin's prevalence across class lines demonstrates just how deeply wedded money, sex, and power are to our notions of male and female identity.
/ Curling up with a brand new book / Pages flipping past your nose / A cup of tea, warm in your reading nook / Mark your page before you doze... "I'm such a strong, militantly feminine person," she says proudly, "that I'm into it." When asked to explain the whys of it all, my mother's only comment was "God bless the child that's got her own." So while I collected poems, love letters, and flowers, my fellow ghetto princesses stuffed their closets with designer clothes, gold chains, and expensive sneakers. Estimated delivery dates - opens in a new window or tab include seller's handling time, origin ZIP Code, destination ZIP Code and time of acceptance and will depend on shipping service selected and receipt of cleared payment. Delivery times may vary, especially during peak periods.
When Chickenheads Come Home To Roost
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Get a FREE ebook by joining our mailing list today! Plus, receive recommendations for your next Book Club read. A very quick read, but one with a compelling and relatable message. I just wish the version I read was edited more carefully.
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"Erotic power isn't based solely on looks," explains Shawn. In my honest confusion, and my desire not to join the ranks of irate sistas who honestly feel like brothers just can't deal with independent black women I went and sought the counsel of my homeboys. Just because a man's ability to pay wasn't an issue for me it did not mean it wasn't an issue for him. Comedian Chris Rock once asked me to talk him through the nuances of courting a feminist woman. "Would it offend her if I paid?" My answer, I thought, was tight.
This month marks two decades since the book’s release and Morgan, 53, acknowledges things have enormously changed since that time. You can listen to audiobooks purchased on Google Play using your computer's web browser. I really enjoyed the bop and flow of the material presented and especially that the book was narrated by Joy Bryant. When I checked it out with my library I was a bit bummed that they didn’t have the ebook.
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"Sometimes, it's not a power or an ego thing," says Jacobs -- who, for the record, always pays. More often than not, he explains, a brother's ability to trick loot on a woman he likes simply makes him feel like a good guy. While Jacobs doesn't buy that brothers are necessarily intimidated by strong women, he does think that sistas need to be more realistic about what they're up against. "You know, I hear a lot of strong, intelligent women say they intimidate brothers," says Clinkscales.
Many of us are empowered enough to combine our erotic power with resources that were unimaginable to our mothers -- money, education, talent, drive, ambition, confidence, and the freedom to just "go for ours." The teenager my mom sought to protect by devising those rules was now a fully grown woman. Her values were already too deeply ingrained for me to really be at risk. I already knew that a man paying for dinner, a hotel, or an airline ticket did not entitle him to a piece of my ass. And truth be told, the same ultra-independent STRONG-BLACKWOMANisms that compelled me to go Dutch were also the ones that landed me in Frisco in the first place -- tired, unhappy, and sick of my life.
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It felt like listening to an older aunt or sister and relating to them personally but then you realize that the depth of what you’re seeking from the conversation isn’t going to come. This book lacks depth, analysis, and theory which ultimately made me unlike it. Morgan writes in the afterword that she specifically wanted to stay away from theory and academic jargon for its accessibility but how do you write a book on black feminism without analysis? It comes across as as one long slightly “hotep-tress” op-ed that tends to shame women for the failures of patriarchy… the babymother chapter almost made me sick to my stomach. Like it’s Black womens fault for being thrust into the throes of single parenthood?
Search the history of over 769 billion web pageson the Internet. When it comes to wifey, it seems, chickens will not do at all. Even though the multi-millionaire mogul/pop star can more than provide, he's not checking for providing chickens with a life of leisure. "Don't get me wrong," he explains, "I want to provide for my woman, but at the same I want a woman that's ambitious. A motivator, one that's going to make the team stronger. "I never thought I could be that girl but all of a sudden I found myself obsessing about everything. Every day it was like, 'Am I thin enough? Are my titties too small? Is my ass too big? Is my hair too short? Am I too light? Am I light enough?' It was ridiculous. It's a competition you can't possibly win." "I'm strong enough and old enough to see that when it comes to getting what I want from men I don't have to be right all the time," she explains.
There's probably a great book to be written about hip hop from a feminist perspective, but Chickenheads sure isn't it. What's interesting is that I bought it about 9 years ago, read half of it and loved it. Morgan claims that she wants to uplift the black community through hip hop feminism but doing so, she tears us apart, mainly black women. There is much talk about black-on-black crime and degradation. Worse, is her claim that she is seeking a feminism that holds the black community accountable and does not marginalize black women as victims. Yet, she only seems to hold black women accountable and paints trifling black men as victims and in need of love.
And in a world where men got the lucci and we got the coochie, the one self-inflicted Achilles' heel men have is their tendency to define power partially in terms of sexual conquest. Punanny is the one thing women control and men have an unlimited desire for. That makes it, even in these post-feminist times, one helluva negotiating tool. "Trickin'" -- specifically using sex to gain protection, wealth, and power -- is a feminine device probably as old as sexism itself. From chickenheads to feminists, most women possess an almost intuitive understanding of the role sex, money, and power play in our intimate relationships -- and we accommodate accordingly. Michael J. Rochon The Philadelphia Tribune When Chickenheads Come Home to Roost...is gaining nationwide acclaim for adding a fresh, idiosyncratic point of view -- the voice of a new generation -- to the oft-debated saga.
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